Comments on: Why I Hate Weddings

By: Troy

Troy — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 17:24:17 +0000

Thanks for the comment Timothy and some really great things to consider…
Respecting tradition (especially in wedding ceremonies) is something I’ve come to understand more thoroughly over the past five years or so…
What I’ve found typically in our culture though is that most couples feel so much pressure to blindly include all the wedding “traditions” without ever considering their significance. And in my experience, this particular tradition has become nothing more than an opportunity for humiliation…
If the same tradition were done with real meaning and honor towards both the bride and the intimate relationship of the couple… I think I’d love it.
Lauren Winner writes much about the loss of community in sex, which sounds weird but is very compelling, in her book Real Sex… which is fantastic.

By: Timothy Young

Timothy Young — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 17:11:09 +0000

Never given that one much thought beyond it being a bit tacky. Didn’t do it at my wedding. The bouquet toss has always struck me as odd to and we didn’t do that either. However, I’m hesitant to get to annoyed about tradition. If I don’t understand it, I try to honor it. It could have some valuable legacy with meaning to some people so as long as it’s not perpetuating bigotry, I can live with it. It would be interesting to know where the tradition started and what its original meaning was. If by chance it only meant, “This chick is now taken and about to lose her virginity,” then it will have little value in my world, but maybe some in others. I attended a marriage between a African American guy and a woman from India once and they not only did the slave tradition of jumping over a broomstick, but they also did some Hindu rituals important to her. It was one of the more beautiful ceremonies of love, tradition and life commitment I’ve ever seen…..no cake in face smashing, garter routines or bouquet tosses. It’s an interesting topic. I leave with a quote from Edurardo Galeano: “American culture is canned culture, like a wedding, where the ceremony is more important than the love.”

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By: sara varghese

sara varghese — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 12:33:07 +0000

lol
I was trying to imagine why the subject of Indians would alter your creative views on the garter subject, so I thought I was filling in a blank

obviously there was no “blank”

I’ll leave you to your creative prowess and back off
lol again

By: Troy

Troy — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 12:19:48 +0000

I’m pretty sure that “dot not the feathers” clears nothing up but rather makes me really bewildered.

By: sara varghese

sara varghese — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 05:00:43 +0000

as Danae would say…dot not the feathers…just so I clear that up

By: mollie greene

mollie greene — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 04:05:19 +0000

yikes, that illustration!

this is such a nasty tradition i’m disgusted you’re even mentioning it.

By: Noel

Noel — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 20:50:11 +0000

does it make it better if the garter is homemade?

By: Troy

Troy — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 20:21:52 +0000

now i would definitely attend a wedding to see that… just as the groom lifts up the hem of the gown…
HAI-YA!!

his nose bleeding all over the place…

that would be great.

By: melanie clark

melanie clark — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 20:18:04 +0000

YUCK. but didn’t you and noel have that at your wedding??? just kidding. she would have kicked you in the face.